Weddings are steeped in tradition—and while some customs are sweet and sentimental, others feel a little… outdated. At The Carriage House of Yorktown, we believe your wedding should reflect you, not a dusty rulebook from the past. So, if you’re planning your dream day and wondering what you have to do, here are 10 “classic” wedding rules you can officially toss aside guilt-free.
1. You must wear a white dress
White is timeless, yes—but not required! Blush, champagne, soft blue, bold florals… the options are endless. Your outfit should make you feel confident and beautiful, whatever the color.
2. You can’t see each other before the ceremony
First looks are intimate, emotional, and practical (hello, more time for photos and celebration!). Whether you sneak away for a private moment or walk down the aisle together, do what feels right.
3. Brides on the left, grooms on the right
This tradition is rooted in ancient superstitions—and sword-fighting. (Really!) Feel free to mix it up: choose your own sides, intermingle the party, or create a circle ceremony for something completely fresh.
4. Your wedding party must be gender-specific
Bridesmen? Groomsmaids? Flower grandmas? Yes, please! Surround yourself with your people, no matter their gender or title.
5. You have to walk down the aisle with your dad
While this can be a powerful moment, it’s not for everyone. Walk with both parents, your partner, a sibling, a best friend—or walk alone and own that moment.
6. You need to have matching sides of the wedding party
Worried you’ve got 5 on one side and 3 on the other? Don’t be. Symmetry is overrated. What matters most is who’s standing beside you, not how balanced the photo looks.
7. You must toss the bouquet and garter
Let’s be honest—some guests love it, some dread it. If it feels awkward or just not your vibe, skip it and replace it with something more meaningful or fun (like a group photo or late-night snack bar).
8. You have to register for china and towels
Register for what you want—or don’t register at all. Honeymoon funds, charity donations, or nothing at all are all perfectly acceptable in today’s wedding world.
9. You should invite everyone you’ve ever known
Your wedding isn’t a reunion—it’s a celebration of your love. Small, intentional guest lists create more personal, memorable experiences. Quality over quantity wins every time.
10. You need to follow tradition to please others
The biggest rule-breaker of all: feeling obligated. Your wedding is your moment. The colors, the ceremony, the schedule, the style—it’s all yours. Celebrate your way, with intention, joy, and freedom.
At The Carriage House of Yorktown, we’re here to help you craft a celebration that feels authentic, relaxed, and beautifully you—whether that includes every tradition or none at all. Let’s rewrite the rules together.